Three Tips To Persuade Others To Do What You Want

Not all things in life can be done on your own. There are times when we must rely on others to help us achieve what we want. However, other people don’t always behave as we might want or expect them to. Sometimes our plea for help falls on deaf ears, and we are left wondering what we could have done to persuade that person. Fortunately, there are simple strategies that you can use to persuade others to do what you want. In this article I’m going to discuss three such strategies, so buckle up and get ready to learn something that you really will use in real life.

Be The Leader
Most of the time getting someone to do something is as simple as asking them to do it. The problem isn’t that they won’t do it, but that we are too shy to ask them straight-out. Rather than just ask “Can you help me move house?” people often say something along the lines of “I know it is so much trouble, and I know I will be forever in your debt, but could you possibly help me move house?” The latter isn’t the way to ask because it presumes that they’re doing you a big favor. While this may be true, by stating it in such a way, you are emphasizing how much trouble it will be for them. You’re also being submissive, and by telling them how much trouble it is you are actually offering them the opportunity to say no. Don’t do that!

Smile
People are more likely to help out their friends than they are a complete stranger. The longer and stronger the relationship you have with a person, the more likely they are to do as you instruct. And the way to build stronger friendships is to smile. Smiling shows that you enjoy their company and brings out positive feelings in the other person. If you smile when you try to persuade someone, they think about how much fun it will be to do what you want them to do. If you don’t smile, then they may feel like you are trying to force them to do something. Smiling is incredibly powerful. Don’t underestimate it.

Help Others
The human desire to reciprocate is incredibly powerful. If you do many favors for your friends, then they shall feel as if they cannot refuse when you ask them for something. While this isn’t an action that you take when you’re actually persuading someone, this is probably the most powerful of all the three tips I offer in this article. If you help others without expecting anything in return, the people around you will begin to notice your selflessness. This means that when you ask for a favor, your friends shall be equally inclined to show such selflessness.

Conclusion
Many people don’t like the idea of persuading others, but in reality we all do it every day. If you can persuade others effectively, then you shall find that your life will improve dramatically, not only in being able to achieve what you want to achieve, but also in your relationships with the people around you. So next time you’re trying to persuade someone to do something, consider these three tips.